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Post by Lord Abortion on Oct 6, 2016 4:41:05 GMT -5
I just have to write this somewhere. I've had the most shocking night of my life. Last night I went to wake my dad up to tell him something. He didn't respond. When I said his name next time, I touched his leg. He felt cold and I immediately thought, "Oh fuck, he's not cold, is he?" I then rolled him over a bit and he was completely white, some foam around his mouth.
I've never been more shocked by anything in my life. I've worked since I was 16 and paid half of the bills with him. I moved out once when I was like 19 and it just didn't work. I've never seen a father and son closer than we are. Or that we were, I guess. The fact that that is past tense is absolutely heartbreaking. Some of you old schoolers may remember him posting as Big Poppa Stump back in the day. He was a pretty good fantasy fighter.
So, moving out didn't work. I moved back with him a few months later. We were completely inseparable from the minute I was born. And now we're separated. My fucking heart is broken, guys. I've never felt like this in my life. I've had a lot of close family die but this was so much more than that. I can't even describe it.
I sat with his body while the EMTs got here. Then again when the police got here. Once they were gone and we were waiting for the funeral home to pick him up, I went and smoked with him. Every time I lit a cigarette I'd go hold his hand or some shit. When those folks got here, I helped them move his body. He was a big ol' dude (about 260lbs) and they sent two really small little old men at 2AM. We had to drag him off the bed, then out into the hall in a thing like a sheet. We used that to lift and get him on the stretcher. Took him out and put him in their vehicle. Getting him down the steps with those dudes was a task.
His name was Walter but everyone called him his middle name, Scott. I'm named after him and that's the reason I'm still called Scotty at almost thirty. He's the original. Still though, the last decade or so, no one called him Scott, either. Everyone called him Old Man. That was pretty much his name. It'll be in quotes on his tombstone. That's legitimately all anyone, including my mom, called him. Good shit...
Oh, and Cavebear or if anyone else knew him, don't post on his Facebook yet. This all went down literally two hours ago so I don't have everyone notified. I'm calling everyone. I don't want to let people know through Facebook or text. Just seems shitty.
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Post by PatSox on Oct 6, 2016 4:51:45 GMT -5
Oh man. LA. That's awful. Losing a parent, especially a close one is one of the worst things that will unfortunately happen to almost all of us at some point. You are about to go through a crazy gambit of emotions the next few days, so stay strong through it, brother
Good to hear he went in his sleep. Definitely the way to go, if there actually is one. Thanks for sharing this with us, but if you want to disappear for a few days while you deal with this, or if you want to post a bunch to get things out, you do so. You know we're here for you, either way
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Post by boboplata on Oct 6, 2016 5:02:08 GMT -5
Sorry about your loss LA. I've read your posts before about you & your dad in weekly & the way I looked at it was it's like having a cooler older brother that you get to hang out with.
RIP Scott Sr.
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Post by CHOPPEDnSCREWED on Oct 6, 2016 6:17:57 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss, brother.
I'm real close with my Dad. We work together and I talk to him every day. I know what that bond is like.
Sorry, man. Thoughts and prayers.
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Post by peAk on Oct 6, 2016 6:53:09 GMT -5
Damn man, sorry to hear that
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 6:58:53 GMT -5
Sorry to hear man. I haven't had the experience of losing a parent yet, so I really have no words of advice to offer. Just terribly sorry for your loss, I know you have mentioned before how tight you and the old man were.
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Post by CHOPPEDnSCREWED on Oct 6, 2016 7:07:38 GMT -5
For what it's worth, take some consolation in the fact that you were the one who found him. You found him because you guys were so close that you were going to wake him up in the middle of the night to talk to him.
There is a certain (for a lack of a better word) dignity to that.
When my grandma died last year, I was the one who carried her urn to be interned. It gave me a certain sense of peace knowing that I was the last person to carry her.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 8:03:34 GMT -5
That's just terrible. You have my sympathy.
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Post by epk on Oct 6, 2016 8:11:08 GMT -5
So sorry to see you experienced that. I agree with chopper- I think every parent hopes they can have the relationship that you just described. Sounds like a life worth living.
I remember him as big poppa stomp! 3 things stood out: 1. awesome that he would sign up and join us. 2. He was actually pretty good. 3.he still wasn't as good as me, the longest running MMAF champ of all times, ever.
Genuinely sorry for your loss. Make sure you take care of yourself, too, in the next few days.
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Post by JROD on Oct 6, 2016 8:16:00 GMT -5
Damn LA...
I don't have the words man. You have my condolences.
I buried my mom when I was 22 and it sucked. Keep your chin up man, the hardest part is yet to come. You're still somewhat in shock at the moment. Once it all sinks in, it will be rough.
I'm sorry man.
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Post by Tapout on Oct 6, 2016 8:27:15 GMT -5
Man, I don't even know what to say. If you need anything, don't hesitate to get a hold of me.
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Post by FAQer on Oct 6, 2016 8:59:04 GMT -5
Shit, bro. No clue what to say. Your OD fam is here to listen. So sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 9:02:46 GMT -5
I dread the day my Dad passes. There is something special about a bond between a father and a son, and I can't imagine the sadness you are going through. Stay strong and keep his legacy going.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 9:15:20 GMT -5
Oh, LA, I am so very sorry. There are no words that can provide you comfort I know, but am glad you felt comfortable enough to share here. Wishing you much peace during this very difficult time.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 9:24:38 GMT -5
I've been there Scotty. I'm very sorry. I know how close you both were.
Please try to take out of this that most father's and sons only wish they were a fraction of the buds that you an your pops were.
RIP BIG STUMP may he be already banging hotties and puffing cigars.
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Post by ocmmafan on Oct 6, 2016 9:40:41 GMT -5
Very sorry, bro. I remember your dad from the old school fantasy fighting days and you reporting back about watching fights with him and your crew. Very sad. RIP.
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Post by agrappleaday on Oct 6, 2016 9:49:20 GMT -5
Truly sorry to hear about your pops brother. I hope you and your family can find comfort in the weeks to come. RIP Scott.
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Post by jsporty1 on Oct 6, 2016 10:10:30 GMT -5
I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mom when I was 19, and it was the worst day of my life. Thoughts and prayers going up for you and your family during this difficult time.
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Post by floater on Oct 6, 2016 10:53:26 GMT -5
Shedding some tears for you Scotty.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 11:03:37 GMT -5
That fuckin sucks LA, sorry you had to go through that whole experience.
You know where to find me if ya need anything.
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Post by TitoOrtizIsAPunk on Oct 6, 2016 11:56:38 GMT -5
Sorry to hear Scotty! You seem well composed... Hard to say but keep your head up... You're the new man of the house. It's been said but we're here for you
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Post by CaveBearOG on Oct 6, 2016 11:58:00 GMT -5
I just have to write this somewhere. I've had the most shocking night of my life. Last night I went to wake my dad up to tell him something. He didn't respond. When I said his name next time, I touched his leg. He felt cold and I immediately thought, "Oh fuck, he's not cold, is he?" I then rolled him over a bit and he was completely white, some foam around his mouth. I've never been more shocked by anything in my life. I've worked since I was 16 and paid half of the bills with him. I moved out once when I was like 19 and it just didn't work. I've never seen a father and son closer than we are. Or that we were, I guess. The fact that that is past tense is absolutely heartbreaking. Some of you old schoolers may remember him posting as Big Poppa Stump back in the day. He was a pretty good fantasy fighter. So, moving out didn't work. I moved back with him a few months later. We were completely inseparable from the minute I was born. And now we're separated. My fucking heart is broken, guys. I've never felt like this in my life. I've had a lot of close family die but this was so much more than that. I can't even describe it. I sat with his body while the EMTs got here. Then again when the police got here. Once they were gone and we were waiting for the funeral home to pick him up, I went and smoked with him. Every time I lit a cigarette I'd go hold his hand or some shit. When those folks got here, I helped them move his body. He was a big ol' dude (about 260lbs) and they sent two really small little old men at 2AM. We had to drag him off the bed, then out into the hall in a thing like a sheet. We used that to lift and get him on the stretcher. Took him out and put him in their vehicle. Getting him down the steps with those dudes was a task. His name was Walter but everyone called him his middle name, Scott. I'm named after him and that's the reason I'm still called Scotty at almost thirty. He's the original. Still though, the last decade or so, no one called him Scott, either. Everyone called him Old Man. That was pretty much his name. It'll be in quotes on his tombstone. That's legitimately all anyone, including my mom, called him. Good shit... Oh, and Cavebear or if anyone else knew him, don't post on his Facebook yet. This all went down literally two hours ago so I don't have everyone notified. I'm calling everyone. I don't want to let people know through Facebook or text. Just seems shitty. Jesus Christ. I'm sorry brother. I'm literally in tears Scotty. Your pops always supported me 100%. Never ever judged me. What a great guy, its my pleasure to have known him. I won't post a thing till I get the ok. Then I wanna post some tunes in his memory. Love ya brother, if wanna talk call 24/7. RIP Scott
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Post by Canuklehead on Oct 6, 2016 12:10:04 GMT -5
So sorry for your loss LA, we're here for you brother. Stay strong
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Post by jamesod on Oct 6, 2016 12:30:23 GMT -5
Oh god, that's horrible. I'm so sorry. My dad passed a couple of years ago and there are still times it doesn't seem real and we hadn't even lived in the same state for 15 years at the time he passed. I can't imagine losing a parent who I was as close to as you were with your dad. Hang in there.
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Post by Lord Abortion on Oct 6, 2016 14:43:25 GMT -5
Thanks guys, I appreciate it. I never thought I could handle this as well as I have. I know I'm still in shock. Still haven't slept but I don't know... I thought I'd like snap but I'm strong. Gonna get through this. I have to, you know?
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Post by FAQer on Oct 6, 2016 14:57:06 GMT -5
I've been crazy busy at work, but I've been thinking about you all day. I never met your dad, but for what it's worth, he helped produce one of the coolest mother fuckers I've ever met. I still rank the weekend you and Elissa spent at my house in my top 5 best weekends ever. There's no way you would be here or be the man you are without him. Gets a ton of respect from me for that alone. Hang in there, bro.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 6, 2016 15:31:33 GMT -5
Glad to hear your are doing well. I am sure you will have ups and downs, but hopefully you are able to remember all of the good times with him and do your best to stay in the moment.
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Post by Tokyudo on Oct 6, 2016 15:31:48 GMT -5
Really sorry to hear that. We're praying for you and your family.
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Post by Jimmy on Oct 6, 2016 17:20:48 GMT -5
Thanks guys, I appreciate it. I never thought I could handle this as well as I have. I know I'm still in shock. Still haven't slept but I don't know... I thought I'd like snap but I'm strong. Gonna get through this. I have to, you know? if you are like me and others, im about 99% sure its gonna get rough. hang on, it eases up over time, but you'll have rough days certain times of the year. for me its deer season, trout season, etc. just enjoy the memories of days past brother.
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Post by kristhegreasedpig on Oct 6, 2016 17:26:43 GMT -5
Fuck. Dude I'm crying for you right now. I just finished a hard massage where one of my best clients told me he just lost his dad suddenly, then your post was the first thing I read after leaving the room. My condolences. My buddy just lost his mom to a strike as him and I were camping together last month too. Its been a hard month.
I lost my dad 30 years ago(at 8), and my mom ten years ago. What I've noticed helps most for me and others is. Rely on whomever you feel like turning to at that moment. Get wasted once or twice in memory, and let the emotions run their course. Don't self destruct hard, but let emotions out. It'll be hard, don't be too strong.
I never got to know my dad on an adult basis, it's great hearing about the kind of relationship you had. Glad you had a smoke with him too!
Smoke and good thoughts sent out to you brother.
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