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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2016 11:46:29 GMT -5
I lost my furry friend of 15 years on Monday.
I am beside myself.
I am trying to be relaxed and zen about it, but actually, I want to smash up everything I own and scream all day and night.
I went to work yesterday, which was fine, I had a few outbursts of tears, took a deep breath, and then moved on to my next task.
Right now I feel paralyzed by grief.
I loved my little Pebbles so much. Our routines were so comforting to me.
Fucking cancer.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2016 11:53:49 GMT -5
Im so sorry Melinda. 15 years is a good run with a good kitty.
RIP Pebbles. May you be chasing mice, getting high on catnip and getting your chin rubbed.
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Post by CaveBearOG on Oct 5, 2016 12:12:34 GMT -5
Melinda, I saw your post on fb. All I could think to say was sorry and I truly am sorry. When I lost Bruno it didn't matter what folks said. I had to go through the grieving process.may yours be short.
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Post by Makalu G on Oct 5, 2016 12:27:41 GMT -5
Bummer. Sorry
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Post by PatSox on Oct 5, 2016 12:32:03 GMT -5
Losing a pet after so many years is such a kick to the gut. Doesn't feel like it now, but you'll be alright. Get another cat, asap
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Post by kristhegreasedpig on Oct 5, 2016 12:45:22 GMT -5
Sorry to hear Hun.
Lost one half of my 13 year old pair of littermates suddenly in April, nothing but time and good memories will help. Yell, cry, hit something (either a pillow or Angelo, something nice and soft😋)- no walls okay?
Extra love to your other pets if you have any too. Always hard on the other animals.
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Post by Premier on Oct 5, 2016 12:55:21 GMT -5
Sorry for you loss.
The best encouragement I got when I loss a pet was when a buddy told me: "The days or even weeks that you will spend mourning your pet will pale in comparison to the YEARS of happiness that pet gave you", which is so true! Always remember the good times.
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Post by peAk on Oct 5, 2016 13:22:39 GMT -5
Bummer
I know all too well the pain you are going through.
Animals are family to a lot of us.
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Post by CHOPPEDnSCREWED on Oct 5, 2016 13:37:40 GMT -5
15 is a damn good run. Chin up, kid.
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Post by hammerfaust on Oct 5, 2016 14:27:09 GMT -5
Sorry to hear... we lost one of our dogs earlier this summer, she was 16. It just plain sucks.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 5, 2016 14:54:14 GMT -5
Losing pets sucks. Get a new animal asap... Pebbles will not be mad at you for doing so.
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Post by TitoOrtizIsAPunk on Oct 5, 2016 15:23:10 GMT -5
I'm one who can not replace a pet asap. I out my Dane/Lab down a year and a half ago and my bloodhound just in May. If not see myself getting a dog anytime soon. Mourn your loved one... Don't skip the process by rushing to get another pet. In due time.
My condolences.
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Post by kristhegreasedpig on Oct 5, 2016 15:27:22 GMT -5
I'm one who can not replace a pet asap. I out my Dane/Lab down a year and a half ago and my bloodhound just in May. If not see myself getting a dog anytime soon. Mourn your loved one... Don't skip the process by rushing to get another pet. In due time. My condolences. I'm the same way. People tried to give me a kitten right away but that doesn't work for me, to forced, I wait for the right time and place, if ever.
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Post by bear on Oct 5, 2016 15:52:24 GMT -5
i have mixed feelings about running out and getting a new pet. on one hand (stfu..lol), it can be comforting and may help one find some peace. on the other, no pet is gonna actually "replace" the one lost, for me i just gotta be ready for something new and hopefully exciting.
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Post by PatSox on Oct 5, 2016 17:36:28 GMT -5
One thing you need to remember is, as big a part of your life Pebbles was, you were EVEYTHING to Pebbles' life. And you made it a good one
Be happy for that. You did good
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Post by HankPNW on Oct 5, 2016 17:42:16 GMT -5
Sorry to hear about Pebbles. RIP little fur baby.
We lost our old cat this year, and in the grief, my wife re-homed our last surviving dog. It's been a rough year for pets in our household. One giant tortoise left.
We were also tempted to go out and get other pets but I think we're done until our kids old enough to want her own (and take care of whatever it is herself).
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2016 2:06:22 GMT -5
Thank you all for your comments. This grieving process is worse than I anticipated. I keep looking for her when I wake up in the middle of the night.
These last 17 months have been fucking horrible. My sisters baby died in February of last year, 2 weeks after her baby shower. Aunt and uncle die in a plane crash on sep 25.
Dealing with Pebbles cancer since July has been exhausting.
I knew we would lose her. I thought I would be ok. Im not ok. I don't even know what ok looks like.
I have been fighting urges to self harm, thinking about the good things in my life. I just feel so lost without that bond
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Post by Deleted on Oct 7, 2016 2:09:50 GMT -5
I know I will rescue again, but this will take us some time. My bond with her was so strong. If I got another pet too soon it would serve as a distraction. I need to feel this loss and go through the grief process before I can consider adopting someone new..
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Post by kristhegreasedpig on Oct 7, 2016 10:54:21 GMT -5
Stay strong and vent to us when you need to. Ghost hugs sent to you!!
(Ghost hugs- you can't see or feel them, but they are there!)
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Post by daywork on Oct 8, 2016 22:20:38 GMT -5
So sorry to hear that Melinda.
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Post by Spencer on Oct 11, 2016 9:56:27 GMT -5
Sorry for your loss, it's so tough losing a close pet.
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Post by agrappleaday on Oct 11, 2016 10:09:52 GMT -5
Thank you all for your comments. This grieving process is worse than I anticipated. I keep looking for her when I wake up in the middle of the night. These last 17 months have been fucking horrible. My sisters baby died in February of last year, 2 weeks after her baby shower. Aunt and uncle die in a plane crash on sep 25. Dealing with Pebbles cancer since July has been exhausting. I knew we would lose her. I thought I would be ok. Im not ok. I don't even know what ok looks like. I have been fighting urges to self harm, thinking about the good things in my life. I just feel so lost without that bond Sorry about your loss I understand what you are going through in looking around for her. I went on vacation in July and lost my dog the first day we were on vacation, it was pretty shitty. He was such a reactive guy that wanted to observe everything, so when we got home, everything I did, I knew to expect a certain reaction from him. It just wasn't there... Take the time you need but keep on with life. I hope you find some more peace, self harming is not going to help anything. This was your only cat?
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